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Sister Desi Love

Email Address//twitter // @SisterDesiSF

Other Aliases
Nun that I’ll claim! jk, Sister Desi works perfectly. I’ll even take a “Hello Sister…”
Date of Birth
Sister Desi was born when I transferred from the Eureka Order of Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence to the SF Motherhouse in 2007.  I’ve been known as one of the co-founder’s of the Abbey of the Big Red Wood, in Eureka, CA as Sister Ursa Minora in 2006.  
Hometown and Life
I grew up in San Jose, California (AKA: LA North.) I lived in Humboldt for many years where I helped start the Eureka Order. Currently, I live with my partner, Saint Wes Craven-Cox and our little schnauzer Juju, in the best city in the world, SF! :p
Date Joined the San Francisco Order
October 2007
When Did You Discover Your Calling?
It was during my final year of undergrad at Humboldt State University, I was the only student with a handful of other queer men and allies who wanted to bridge the gap between the gay community and the larger conservative community. Our first event was a Bingo that raised over $8,000 for the Eureka Senior Center.
Why Did You Become a Sister?
I first learned of the Sisters when I was in my third year of high school. I was browsing AOL (omg, I’m aging myself) and came across the Sister’s website and clearly saw a picture of Sister Hellen Wheels holding a parasol, donning a hoop skirt — it intrigued me as I was predominantly raised Catholic up through my teens. When I had the opportunity to start a Mission to become a fully professed Order, I grabbed at the chance! Our first call to action in Eureka was to make a large impact in our local community so we could reach our hands out to the other communities of Humboldt County.
Sponsors in the Order
**My first Mother from when I was a Eureka Nun was Sister Nova Nilla of the Russian River Order**
My SF Mother is, the irreplaceable and unforgettable, Sister Farrah Moans.
My Big Sisters are Sister Jezabelle and Sister Flora Goodthyme (who was my Auntie and MoN during my novitiate and remains my best friend today.)
Major Projects In the Order
* Chair - End the Gay Purge in Chechnya committee
* Wrote the press release for the Sisters formal response to the atrocities in Chechnya 
* Organized a vigil for those lives lost and tortured in Chechnya, outside a Russian Orthodox Church
* Board and GM Sexytary 2017 
* My Novice Project: Holy Rollers - a Big Gay Skate Party! Over $3,000 donated, benefitting LYRIC
Goals & Aspirations
I would like to see a larger movement around the horrors in Chechnya today.  People need to know that there are concentration camps, fully functioning and OUR government is disallowing refugees.  We need to make a stand and take action!
Religious Beliefs
I don’t believe in one God.  I believe in science.
Any Takeaways from your Initiate Process?
Since I was a founding Novice Sister in Eureka, it was my decision to redo my initiate process when I moved to SF.  I really felt the difference having been a Nun in whiteface, wearing a veil. Having to leave that experience behind me when I transferred to the SF Motherhouse, was intense. I had to navigate a new Order and the City as a postulant. I learned to always listen — there are so many things we learn everyday.
Words to Live By?
“It takes ten times as long to put yourself back together than it does to fall apart.” By Finnick Odair (kudos if you get the reference!!)
Specific Ministry?
I focus on being open, present, available and approachable when I am out in the community; I do this so those who may need me are always welcomed <3.
Do you have any Children?
Just one… Novice NormaLee Chaste! Now, Sister NormaLee Chaste!! <3 <3           
Do you have any Little Sisters?
I certainly do… the always lovely and sweet, Sister Kay Thulu (Sera Sera) and the beautifully smart Novice Sister Amor Ah Quality!

Is there Anything Else You Want the Curious to Know?
Comfort the disturbed and disturb the comfortable; always, ALL WAYS. Peace.

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